The Cookie Cutter Standard of Stupidity

From last time: Should I have been nicer to Janice after she blurted out the first ridiculous remark that popped into her hollow head? Should I have overlooked her marginal mental abilites and tolerantly updated her on what I’d been doing since ending my legal career? No.

Although I am a faithful proponent of utilizing kindness, this case proved an exception. Stupers (short for those pesky stupid persons) are often on the lookout for fodder to criticize. This keeps them from focusing on a self that is not in proper working order anyway. Focusing on faults of others makes stupers forget their own.

To Janice, my abandoning a fruitful legal career was both incomprehensible and reprehensible. Her demeanor indicated an inflexible person (no smiles, stiff, gaping hole where sense of humor should be) and, as you may have noticed, she was not exactly a charming conversationalist. I decided not to explain, defend or justify any of my post lawyer-life accomplishments. I shy away from unnecessary criticism from questionable sources. Case closed. Onward.

My mother asked me to interview her friend, Karen, who’d been victimized by a stuper while shopping in a trendy clothing boutique. Karen is a petite, slender, attractive lady in her late forties. Her fiance’s daughter was getting married, and Karen needed an elegant, yet understated dress. This particular shop, I know from personal experience, offers a wide array of lovely frocks.

Karen explained, “When I walked in, four ladies stood lined up at the counter staring at the front door. Three of them seemed pretty young, but the fourth one looked my age, so I asked her to help me. There were many gorgeous dresses. I couldn’t decide which ones to try on so I asked the employee to help me choose. She looked me up and down, then said, ‘You’re very short and squatty. We don’t have anything here for you. Try coming back next week when we get our new shipment.’ And she walked away, leaving me feeling fat and frumpy! She didn’t even try to help. I felt awful!”

Take my word, Karen is not “short and squatty.” She is 5′ 3 1/2″ tall and wears a size 6.  Tut, tut! What a novelty. Yet again a stuper speaking not only without thinking, but using the “cookie cutter standard” as well. Here’s how this standard works: Place an exact physical replica of yourself on top of another person. If it’s not a precise fit, that person doesn’t rate. Ignore them completely.

The only time a stuper does not use this cookie cutter standard is when there appears to be an immediate, direct benefit (money, jewelry, celebrity) -anything that obviously draws attention; subtlety does not work.

This worker was 5’8″ tall. Karen was regarded as inferior since she was not an exact physical replica of the stupid employee. (Yes, many stupers suffer from sudden superiority complex for no apparent reason). Since Karen did not measure up (pun intended), she wasn’t worth assisting. 

Karen continued, “I left and came back five hours later, but that employee was still there. So I gave up. I ended up going to the same boutique, in a different location and found the perfect dress.” 

Does anyone have the right to call another person, “short and squatty” without provocation? No. Like stereotyping, this cookie cutter standard provides a way for a stuper to formulate an opinion, even though the opinion is ludicrous and nonsensical. Stupers use a quick, unfinished assessment. Be certain when trying to form an opinion of another person, to take your time and expand your field of vision so that you view the whole picture, not one based solely on appearances. Or you might find yourself becoming a stuper too.

Think first, last, and always!


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