Do Not Be Ashamed of Your Own Stupidity

We all slip up once in a while by either saying or doing something stupid. This is nothing to be ashamed of. I say this, recalling that when I was a neophyte attorney, I once asked a seasoned lawyer an irregular question. The mere recollection of my query still makes me wince; it was so prodigiously stupid of me. Don’t ask me to repeat it because I won’t. (However, rest assured, that for a small fee, I can be convinced).

The more we speak and act without thinking, the greater the risk of appearing, and actually becoming, stupid. Sometimes, words or situations escape our grasp. We may be distracted, tired, naive (as in the case of my own wayward question) or otherwise mentally distraught, causing us to act like stupers (short, again, for soberingly stupid persons).

Authentic humans should acknowledge their own stupidity. But we rarely see this practice in action because of the fear of being permanently branded a stuper under the rules of polite society. Being viewed by others as a stuper can imperil our self-image as well as the image we convey to others. I plummeted several feet in the eyes of the seasoned attorney upon posing my idiotic question, and never again regained my footing in his eyes. I know what I’m talking about.

Words and actions depict us, furnishing the elements of our personalities. These same words and actions can also deform us, if not properly presented. I experienced a near miss yesterday while volunteering at the library. I was placed in charge of tracing missing books, a task for which I seemed to have an uncanny knack. The head librarian gleefully patted me on the back because I’d located books they’d been seeking for weeks.  I became known as the Book Hunter.

Soon after, I found yet another missing tome, and then did something that could have smirched my reputation. I put the damn book down somewhere and suddenly found myself a victim of ROA (Rapid Onset Amnesia). I retraced my steps (or what I thought could have been my steps), and thankfully, the matter of my stupidity remained private; I’d inadvertently shelved the book while pausing to skim a few paragraphs of another. I do that sometimes; just enough to give me an opinion of the book so I can converse intelligently about it. Anyway, I emerged untarnished.

Stupidity happens. But if we train ourselves to learn from stuper moments and not repeat ludicrous actions, we have nothing to be ashamed of.

Think first, last and always.


4 Responses to “Do Not Be Ashamed of Your Own Stupidity”

  1. Jennifer says:

    >Authentic humans should acknowledge their own stupidity.

  2. Jillian says:

    I’ve done some stupid things out in the open. Although, I think the people around me labeled me as an airhead, not stupid. Which is good because I’d rather be an airhead than be stupid… airhead is better…. right?

    I’ve done some stupid stuff at home that thankfully only I know about (well not anymore because I’m getting ready to tell you). But, I haver an electric stove and a few times in the past I have touched a burner to see if it was hot and have burnt myself. What was I thinking?

  3. Yes, we are all guilty sometimes. Just the other day, I put conditioner on my hair BEFORE I shampooed it. Nice. I also had a little mishap while cooking mac and cheese which is chronicled on my blog last Monday.

    I am choosing to believe I am just too busy and need to slow down, instead of slipping into stupidity.

  4. Julianne says:

    I am the victim of ROA quite often and have to call in my personal-finder-of-all-things, my husband. Thank goodness for him. I’d be lost without him and so would everything I’ve ever owned.

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