Stupidity’s Cookie Cutter Standard Revisited

I’m a little late in completing my latest post, so I leave you, dear readers, with a stupidity tale from my archives:

My mother asked me to interview her friend, Karen, who’d been victimized by a stuper (short again for a carelessly stupid person) while shopping in a trendy clothing boutique. Karen is a petite, slender, attractive lady in her late forties. Her fiance’s daughter was getting married, and Karen needed an elegant, yet understated dress. This particular shop, I know from personal experience, offers a wide array of lovely frocks.

Karen explained, “When I walked in, four ladies stood lined up at the counter staring at the front door. Three of them seemed pretty young, but the fourth one looked my age, so I asked her to help me. There were many gorgeous dresses. I couldn’t decide which ones to try on so I asked the employee to help me choose. She looked me up and down, then said, ‘You’re very short and squatty. We don’t have anything here for you. Try coming back next week when we get our new shipment.’ And she walked away, leaving me feeling fat and frumpy! She didn’t even try to help. I felt awful!”

Take my word, Karen is not “short and squatty.” She is 5′ 3 1/2″ tall and wears a size 6. And even if she was, the idiot’s job was to assist the customer, not offer a worthless opinion. Yet again an instance of a stuper speaking not only without thinking, but using the “cookie cutter standard” as well. Here’s how this standard works: Place an exact physical replica of yourself on top of another person. If it’s not a precise fit, that person doesn’t rate. Ignore them completely.

The only time a stuper does not use this cookie cutter standard is when there appears to be an immediate, direct benefit (money, jewelry, celebrity) -anything that obviously draws attention; subtlety does not work here.

This worker was 5′8″ tall. Karen was regarded as inferior since she was not an exact physical replica of the stupid employee. (Yes, many stupers suffer from sudden superiority complex for no apparent reason). Since Karen did not measure up (pun intended), she wasn’t worth assisting.

Karen continued, “I left and came back five hours later, but that employee was still there. So I gave up. I ended up going to the same boutique, in a different location and found the perfect dress.”

Does anyone have the right to call another person, “short and squatty” without provocation? Or even with provocation? No. Like stereotyping, this cookie cutter standard provides a way for a stuper to formulate an opinion, even though the opinion is ludicrous and nonsensical. Stupers use a quick, unfinished assessment. Be certain when trying to form an opinion of another person to take your time and expand your field of vision so that you view the whole picture, not one based solely on appearances. Or you might find yourself becoming a stuper too.

Think first, last, and always!


6 Responses to “Stupidity’s Cookie Cutter Standard Revisited”

  1. Sarah says:

    So it’s safe to assume that if some one is rude for no apparent reason, they’re a stuper. I think stupers use this cookie cutter standard mentally too. If you don’t agree with them, then they ignore you.

  2. Julianne says:

    Apparently clothes are only designed for 5 percent of the population. If Karen is short and squatty then I’m screwed!

  3. Jennifer says:

    Wow … in my opinion Karen was discriminated against in a way that might be legally actionable. I’ve reported depos in many cases where the plaintiff brought suit for a less valid reason. Many years ago when I was expecting my son I wandered into a store because I’d seen a full-length black velvet coat in the window. When I asked the “salesclerk” to show it to me, she took one look and said “We don’t have anything that would fit you.” AND LAUGHED AT ME. It still stings after all these years. I feel Karen’s pain.

  4. Jillian says:

    Wow… I think I would definitely lose it. Argh! And I don’t know how she could even go back to the store!

  5. Maribeth says:

    Ugh, some people have nerve and the disappointing thing is they don’t see how rude they are. Karma will catch up:)

  6. Keli says:

    I don’t think I’ve ever met a stuper who wasn’t rude. It’s part and parcel of stupidity.
    As you can see, Karen managed to find a dress without any help from a stuper despite being allegedly short and squatty. The only thing that actually was short and squatty was the idiot’s mind!
    As usual, I have to agree with you. And yes, the sting of stupidity can last for too long. There are certain stuper encounters that still make me feel a pang of irritation…even though they occurred years ago! Ouch!
    I too would have likely gone elsewhere, but Karen is the persistent type, not one to let a stuper get in the way.
    Karma always catches up and sometimes very quickly!

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