Stupidity and the Quiet Among Us

I’ve discovered, in my ongoing study of stupidity, that stupers (short for regrettably stupid persons) have zero tolerance for quiet people. By “quiet” folks, I’m not referring to the creepy types who likely end up as stalkers, cult leaders, serial killers, Al Qaeda members or Sears appliance repair technicians.

During a meeting with a handful of executives last week, I heard complete and utter idiot, Sally, whine,

“Do we have to keep Quinn on the Board of Directors of XYZ Organization? I’ve never heard him say a word!”

“Never” in Sally’s meager mind referred to the past three Board meetings, two of which Quinn was not even present. Sally caught Quinn exercising quiet time during one meeting and that, dear readers, in the thimble size mind of the average stuper, means its time to push the eject button. And take note, it didn’t matter what others heard, but only that Sally had noticed Quinn’s silence. Stupers are notoriously self-indulgent in public.

I met “Quinn” for the first time a few months ago. He is soft spoken, pleasant and a gentle soul. Naturally, I took an instant liking to him. I see now that my initial impression of him was accurate. Resident stuper Sally found Quinn annoying and unfriendly. Because he chose to stay quiet during one lackluster meeting.  Background on Sally: she’s a bitch moron. And slightly deranged.

At our last Board of Directors meeting of XYZ Organization a few days ago, both Sally and Quinn were present. When volunteers were needed to assist with a task, Quinn spoke. He volunteered. With a smile, no less.

Sally was too busy watching the paint peel on the ceiling to notice (the building is historic).

How can anyone possibly improve him/herself when they are busy keeping their eyes on the behavior of others? In the case of Sally, rest assured that during the nearly one year time that I’ve been acquainted with her, no progress has occurred. She remains a Class A stuper.

How should we behave around Class A stupers? My initial reaction, as most of my devoted readers know, is to commit bodily harm. However, typically this impulse disappears within weeks, days, a few hours, thirty minutes at most, several minutes, as I tend to come to my senses and realize that beating up idiots like Sally does no one any good. Plus, it’s hard on the knuckles.

Once not long ago, I did commit a beating, not on Sally’s person, but in the form of a brief, verbal assault. It did give me satisfaction, but not very much. And Sally continued pursuing stupidity with her usual fervor.

I don’t know what’s happened in the past experiences of people like Sally to compel them to act unkindly and without compassion or understanding toward others. But I do know that since walnut-size minds cannot be changed, we must change ourselves in a way that expands our own minds and forms a barrier so that morons can’t affect us (try as they might on a daily basis especially where I work; I hear from Sally practically every, freaking day).

I have to believe that it’s the consciousness of one’s own inferiority that makes a person hide behind or choose to act stupidly. We should share our goodness with people of inferior qualities. By exercising kindness toward them (unless, of course, you strongly feel a beating would be highly effective), we maintain our sanity and enhance our own well-being. Just a certain steadiness by the thinking mind can do wonders. In this way, we expand our own hearts and minds. And form a shield that stupers can’t penetrate.

Why not think?


7 Responses to “Stupidity and the Quiet Among Us”

  1. omawarisan says:

    I struggle with what you’re urging me to do here. It is the right thing to do, but I just don’t know what to do with that feeling of overwhelming dread I get when I see a stuper’s number on my caller id.

  2. Mad Woman says:

    It can be incredibly difficult to restrain myself when in the presence of people like this. I will take a soft spoken gentleman over a stuper like Sally anyday.

  3. Sofi says:

    I was always wondering why some people think I am “stuck up”. When I am around people I don’t know, I’d rather listen than talk. THese people are obviously like Sally – stupers!

  4. Jenny says:

    Ah! I have been dealing of late with a stuper just such as this. Most frustrating. She has time to point all her wee digits at others but not a one back at her own sorry self. Very Sally-esque.

  5. Jenny says:

    Furthermore, Miss Sally needs to engrave on the inside of her empty skull what Mr. Quinn obviously already knows: Silence is often misinterpreted but never misquoted.

    Come to think of it, we all should remember that profound truth.

  6. Onedia says:

    Very good post and right on target. Most of the world is extroverted and expect everyone to talk as much as they do. Introverts like to process things a bit more and speak when they are ready. Most meetings and classrooms leave these think-speak-think people out of things and assume they are not participating when in fact these quieter people are probably more engaged than those who are speaking more than they are thinking.

  7. Ferd says:

    I can do that sometimes, be kind to stupers. But most times, I must confess, I am not. I treasure my time. I don’t have enough of it as I grow older. Or of patience, really. So my fall back option is usually some sort of boundary, so as to marginalize the stuper as much as possible. — Have you seen that commercial where someone want as “Easy Button?” Well I often want a “Delete Key” for the stupers in my life.
    I’ll have to think harder about being nice to stupers more often. It sorta goes against the grain for me. But I’ll think about it, Keli.

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